i made two mistakes today. and they keep repeating in my head like a symphony on loop.
on a side note, i find myself slightly disillusioned today. i don't understand why some people can pick on the smallest mistakes of others, yet gloss over their own shortcomings. i don't understand why people always assume that others are not trying when they haven't paid enough attention to them in the first place. i don't understand why people love to give criticisms when they probably enjoy hearing praises. i don't understand why some people value honesty more than the feelings of others. i don't understand how some people can speak so passionately about empathy, social change, empowerment, yet enjoy trampling on others' pride and putting others down. and what i don't understand most is, how some of these people can actually rise up to become respectable public characters.
then i looked in the mirror, and i thought i saw two faces and a tainted heart.
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WHAT? i thought i was going to read abt celebration/fb-ing until almost 3am etc. so this was what you get after the night???
and STOP THINKING ABT THE STUPID STAR AND NOT PUTTING IT IN FRONT! IT IS PERFECTLY F.I.N.E!
hahhaha! NO LA! i wasn't referring to the star!! i was referring to something i said yday!:S
and of cos that wasn't the only thing i took away yday!! but i feel very disturbed so i had to write about it! hahah!
HAHA! Hmm.. do i know who u're talking about? goodness. I wonder too. I thought it was interesting. And to be honest, despite the monstrous stories, i think it was already filtered to be as harmless as possible.
so imagine the original event(s).
i think we have tried to be as positive and take in the good. but little did we know that the poison was put in the apple. ;)
man... i love your self-awareness!
'value honesty more than the feelings of others'... this line really speaks to me. thanks lily. the question always is "is being right more important to you, or is the relationship more important to you?"
your appendix isit? seriously - i really don't believe it matters. if it helps at all, i was looking through mine and realised i put an extra full stop somewhere. haha.
sally - i'm not sure if we're thinking of the same person..but looks like you have some stories to share too. jiayou with all the deadlines k!
fxk - i'm curious why you made the link between being honest and being right. a person can be honest about what he thinks but he might not be right, isn't it?
anyway the central issue is never about the content of the mistakes but how they are managed.
hmmm... the link between the two is that the link between 'honest and feelings' is the same kind of link as that between 'right and relationship'. so there's no link per se between 'honest and right'... it spoke to me cos sometimes i'm not honest, cos i value the feelings - and sometimes i'll be wrong, cos i value the relationship.
you're right - you can be honest and wrong at the same time. the beauty about that though, is that if the person is wrong, you don't have to be affected by what he/she is saying. they are just being misinformed fools. of course, this is just theory lah.
wahhh you guys are super cool and intellectual!!! HAHA. wow. such an exchange of ideas. ;)
i agree with jingyi. mistakes are often not just about its content but also about the damage control. ha~
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